Divorce Tips for Domestic Violence Survivors

 Posted on June 21, 2023 in Divorce

No one should ever have to face domestic violence. There is never an excuse for assaulting one’s spouse. If you have experienced domestic violence in your marriage, divorce may be your best option. Violently abusive spouses rarely stop their behavior on their own. You will most likely need to exit the relationship in order to be safe from further violence. When you are divorcing an abusive spouse, there are some special considerations. Taking care of your emotional and physical needs is very important during this time. Meeting your legal needs and protecting your rights will likely take the skill of an attorney. Daniel R. Bacalis, P.C. is experienced in helping domestic violence survivors get divorced and takes special care to see that survivors are treated fairly throughout the process. 

Advice for Divorcing an Abusive Spouse 

Divorce can be especially challenging for those who were abused during the marriage. Some helpful tips include: 

• Communicate through lawyers only - Your spouse may attempt to contact you directly during the divorce. It is best to respond only by telling them to contact your attorney. Speaking with your spouse gives them the opportunity to try to persuade you to stay. Abusers often resist divorce and may promise to change or behave very kindly in an effort to convince you not to leave. 

• Seek a protection order - Obtaining a protection order can temporarily ensure that you are allowed to remain in the marital residence while your spouse must leave. It can also stop your spouse from contacting or harassing you or your children. 

• Take security measures - Your safety and the safety of any children involved is paramount. You may wish to install security cameras or a video doorbell. It may also be wise to carry pepper spray or a personal alarm. If you know your neighbors, asking them to keep an eye out for your soon-to-be ex-spouse may help. 

• Get counseling - Escaping domestic violence can be emotionally challenging. Seeking counseling from a professional can help you through this difficult time. PTSD is common among domestic violence survivors. 

• Assert your rights - You may have gotten used to giving in to your spouse’s every demand during the marriage because it was safer for you. During your divorce, you have certain rights. Allowing your attorney to assert your rights rather than letting your spouse dictate the terms of the divorce can leave you in a better position. 

Ending an abusive marriage is often the best thing you can do for yourself and your children. While it may not be easy, it is generally well worth it when you can live without the fear of facing violence. 

Contact a Hurst Divorce Lawyer 

Daniel R. Bacalis, P.C. is skilled in helping survivors of domestic violence safely leave their marriages. Our Tarrant County divorce attorneys will strive to ensure that you receive everything you are entitled to in your divorce. For a free consultation, please contact us at 817-498-4105. 

Sources: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/counseling-for-domestic-violence-survivors/

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/after-you-leave/